This week on the Friday 5 we are celebrating Moms. I think this proved out to be a really fun week and I have some good variety. Here are my 5 picks:
Mama Says from Footloose: The Musical- A really fun little song about listening to your Mom!
Mother and Child Reunion from Paul Simon- I love Paul Simon’s song writing and it is on display here. It’s a mother and child reunion and the power of that relationship.
Just a Housewife from Marilyn Mathis, Not Just a Housewife- I wanted to have one song defending the life of a homemaker. This song does a great job with that and I wish I could have included the entire song.
Your Mother from Kathryn Beaumont and Peter Pan- Kathryn is one of the best vocalists in Disney history and even though I’m not the biggest Peter Pan fan she sings this song beautifully.
Mama Says from The Shirelles- A classic Motown song about listening to your Mom on the bad days!
What are your favorite songs about Moms? If you have a blog or youtube channel join in with us in the Friday 5 It’s a lot of fun and we have some neat topics coming up. To participate get the topics on the tumbler page. http://thefridayfivemusic.tumblr.com/
Happy Valentines Day! I hope you all had a happy time either with people you love or thinking about the many blessings God has given you. We are all richly blessed and if nothing else I love every person reading these words (it’s really true!).
I had an interesting experience today. Valentines can be a little bit hard for us single folk who are without a valentine in their life. Yes, yes, I know lots of couples don’t celebrate Valentines including my own parents. However, at least you know if you were going to celebrate it you have someone to do it with. As far as my life companion I haven’t found him yet. He’s still hiding (come out! come out! Where ever you are!).
Mothers Day is actually the hardest holiday for me because I feel like I am not fulfilling my spiritual calling and purpose for being a woman not having a family. It is all laid on so thick on Mothers Day that typically I do not go to church. The Mothers deserve having their day but it is just too painful for me.
Valentines Day I have a tradition of designing my own valentine and this year was no exception. This helps me have fun with the holiday and focus on my many blessings.
But an interesting thing happened today. I haven’t been feeling well and been sleeping even worse lately. This has made it hard to get everything done including keeping up both blogs and my youtube channel. I ended up going 10 days without a video. Yikes! I had filmed 2 but the sound didn’t work so they had to be discarded. Then today I decided to make up for lost time and filmed 6 different videos and because of audio and other problems I had to film them each 3 times!!! I ended up working on videos for 11 hours!
Here’s how they all turned out.
This is a really fun one with my Top 10 Romantic Comedies (just in time for Valentines Day!).
This one gave me my first youtube crying moment! It’s a very special movie Song of the Sea. Read my review on the blog as well. http://wp.me/p4VRGy-13p
And then some unboxings
They aren’t perfect videos but I’m proud of them especially the movie posts. I’ve certainly come a long way in the last year and will continue to improve.
But the interesting thing about making the videos is it took all day. All of the sudden it was 10 pm and I finished my videos and sat back exhausted and happy. It is probably the happiest I have been on Valentines Day in a long time. It made me realize while we are often overbusy in this world there are moments where that comes in handy! Where the best thing you can do is put your head down and get lost in creating something. Forget about your problems, fears, anxieties and loneliness and just work hard on something you love.
In that sense making silly videos that probably not many people will see is quite powerful. It made me happy and if I’m lucky it might make a few other people happy who get to see them. I got a tweet from Song of the Sea director and creator Tomm Moore today thanking me for my review. That made me feel like a million bucks!
That’s the Valentine I needed. It reminds me of President Hinckley’s Dad saying “forget yourself and go to work”. Isn’t it the truth!
So each week I have to send out an email to the sisters in my ward updating them on the events of the week and leave them with a spiritual thought to encourage them throughout the week. Usually I try to get this out on Wednesday but we had an activity Thursday and I had the writing conference yesterday so I hadn’t gotten it out and it was Saturday. (They are used to me being late on this. Sigh…)
With those thoughts still swimming in my mind, I was tasked with saying something inspiring to women on Mothers Day. This was quite the dilemma. I hope you have all gotten the impression from this blog that I am not a disingenuous person and I am not about to put pen to paper on anything that is false or preaching doctrine I don’t believe or struggle with.
If I’ve learned anything in my life it is that honesty is the only thing that matters and the sharing of true experience is always more impactful than the privatizing of who we are and what life has taught us. Sharing my heart with all of you through this blog and my friendships is my gift to the world.
Giving our heart is the only thing we really have to give.
So what should I write? What will be an authentic expression of my views of Mothers Day and mothering while also being helpful to others? How can I write what I feel? Interesting question for a girl at a writing conference…
Here’s what I came up with. I’m immensely proud of it. I rarely can think of a moment when I have as effectively put my heart on the page:
“So Sunday is Mothers Day. Please come and help us celebrate womanhood. To be frank, sometimes Mothers Day can be a bit of a downer. I’m not only unmarried but I’ve struggled to relate to the often ‘ooey goey’ version of womanhood that seems to be presented as the ideal at church particularly on Mothers Day.
I know I am not alone in feeling this way. In fact, this week we were talking as a presidency about how pretty much everyone we know walks away from Mothers Day feeling inadequate, guilty or at least frustrated. There are women in my life who refuse to attend church on Sunday because they are so wracked with guilt over their own perceived failures as women in Christ.
How can we fix this problem? I know Heavenly Father wants His daughters to be happy but does he accept our efforts when the standard seems to be so high and our output less than we wish it was? Here’s something to think about:
“See that ye look to God and live.” The ultimate source of empowerment and lasting acceptance is our Heavenly Father and His Son, Jesus Christ. They know us. They love us. They do not accept us because of our title or position (or I’d add marital, familial status). They do not look at our status. They look into our hearts. They accept us for who we are and what we are striving to become. Seeking and receiving acceptance from Them will always lift and encourage us.” (Elder Erich W. Kopischke April 2013 Conf, http://www.lds.org/general-conference/print/2013/04/being-accepted-of-the-lord?lang=eng)
So, tomorrow on Mothers Day let’s try to remember that the Lord accepts us for the women we are striving to become. He knows our hearts. He loves us. We are His daughters. Perhaps we can turn Mothers Day into a day of sharing and fulfillment instead of lost expectations and thwarted dreams? I’m going to try and I hope you will all join me.”
Happy Mother’s Day! First I want to start out by letting the mothers in my life know how much I love them. When I say mothers I mean anyone who has successfully mothered me throughout my life.
I was lucky to be born to an amazing mother. There are women who set mothering aside as a tangential part of their lives. Not my Mom. It is her whole life. She has spent over 30 years of her life mothering children. She had her first baby at 22 and now at 54 still has 2 children under 15 at home. It is a career of mothering.
My mother’s greatest gift is her ability to nurture. She is the oldest daughter in a family of 8 and from an early age she nurtured her siblings on a daily basis. She taught them how to read, cook, and consoled both bruised shins and egos. My mother knows how to listen and I can’t tell you the number of times I have turned to her just to have the peace of someone who will listen.
My mother is also a very interesting person. Whether it be politics, philosophy, gardening or an immensity of other topics, my mom has a love of learning and is always up-to-date on the latest study, book or publication. She certainly hasn’t let the stereotype of a housewife stop her from being a dynamic, well-read, ambitious woman.
Another great mother in my life is my sister Megan. She has always been a peaceful influence in our family. There are some people who seem to be blessed by God with an ability to love unconditionally, Megan is one of those people. Despite frequent quarrels (and worse) between my brother and I, I can hardly remember a moment when the two of us (or anyone else for that matter) fought with Megan.
And that’s not to says she’s a doormat because she is not. She is just a loving person that wants everyone to be happy. I think it says something that the minute she heard of my operation she volunteered to take care of me. That is so like her. She is the best!
One more I can’t help but mention is my Grandma Wagner. Both my grandma’s are wonderful but my Grandma Wagner has taken a special interest in my life that I appreciate. She seems to always call to ‘check up on me’ when I need it most. She is also a great listener and is honestly one of my best friends. I can’t imagine anyone not loving her.
I’ve always had a great need for validation and love in my life (I suppose we all do but my needs are more pronounced than some). For some reason, I need to know that I am loved and worthy of love, and I need to hear it again and again and again. It is strange because I am also very independent and self-confident. I think everyone has a mixture of a need for both? There have been so many other women in my life, some which had no children, who have mothered me- teachers, church leaders, friends, cousins, aunts etc.
The dictionary defines mothering as to “Look after kindly and protectively”. I’ve needed such kindness and sheltering in my life. I still need it and am grateful for all that have given it to me. I know I can be stubborn, independent and opinionated but thanks for loving me anyway!
I love this talk by Sister Sheri L. Dew called Are We Not All Mothers? I wish I could find a video clip but its worth a read- especially those who are feeling a bit lonely on this mother’s day. We all have a role to play. We all have someone to love:
“For reasons known to the Lord, some women are required to wait to have children. This delay is not easy for any righteous woman. But the Lord’s timetable for each of us does not negate our nature. Some of us, then, must simply find other ways to mother. And all around us are those who need to be loved and led.”