Tag: bucket list

Things I’d like to Learn

summer bucket list

As I figure it knowledge falls into 4 categories- things I know, things I do not know, things I would like to know and things I have no desire to know.   For this post I am focusing on the 3rd category- things I would like to know.

THINGS I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW

I would like to be able to:

cook different meats like lamb, veal and fish besides salmon

cook oysters, clams, mussels, shellfish in general

make light and fluffy biscuits

write a poem

start a pen pal

make pie crust flaky

make my own sausages/get a stuffer

I’d like to try tibetan, african, afghan, korean and other cuisines of food.

know how to paint, both watercolor and oils

learn to take better photos, especially for my blog

learn how to get my blog out there more effectively

take pottery class, sketching and everything else art

I’d like to know how to create a modern website with code.

I’d like to be able to grow a garden (have a bit of a black thumb myself)

Flower arranging (if I could find a flower shop I’d love that)

Learn how to cook duck, goose and cornish game hen (and maybe even quail, pheasant and squab).

learn caligraphy

take the fondant class (that’s the last cake decorating class I still haven’t taken)

learn how to ski come winter time

scuba diving lessons

make my own jewelry

learn how to flirt and meet men

(Ok. That last one is a lost cause)

So there’s lots of things to learn!  What should I check off first?  Anything you can help me out with?

Same Old, Same Old

Oscar Wilde said “Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative.”  Do you think that is true?

I used to think I was an exciting and adventurous person. As a child I could see myself traipsing off to Paris, Rome and the tropics (I evidently also saw an unending bank account!) and trying new and daring things like scuba diving, mountain climbing and cliff jumping (scuba diving is still a goal of mine).  I also thought I would be living in New York, DC or possibly abroad….

While I think there is value in new experiences, I have learned as an adult that I am the near-opposite of the vision for myself I had as a child.  I hate surprises, am completely unspontaneous and will always take the sure thing over an unknown.  Perhaps this is a safe way to live life but if it is what gives you happiness can that be bad?

Rather than being safe I look at it as knowing what I like and being confident in those choices.  For example,  I have read North and South by Elizabeth Gaskell at least 3 times a year for the last 4 years and I probably will continue reading it over again for the rest of my life.  I love the experience of reading that book and have yet to find a replacement that is as satisfactory. (I was just talking to a girl who said she has never reread a book in her life.  I wouldn’t read much if that was my philosophy!)

For me repetition does not diminish a good experience.   The things I like I could do again and again.  I honestly think I could eat a jamba juice every day of my life and never tire of it, or spaghetti, or subs.  I love Hawaii and really feel no desire to vacation anywhere else.  I think about going somewhere new and while that sounds exciting my heart keeps tugging me back to Hawaii.  Its what I know I will love and just like Gaskell or jamba juice there is some comfort in a sure thing.

I have always loved to swim and whether it be boating, open water, ocean or pool, I love being in the water.  I could swim every day for the rest of my life and never tire of it.  Sometimes I wonder if I should take up other sports just to keep challenging myself but there isn’t anything else I feel a desire to do.  All I want to do is swim! (In fact, every other athletic activity is somewhat repellent to me including things everyone loves like hiking or dancing).

With movies and television you can see this personality trait. I’ve seen Bringing up Baby, Breakfast at Tiffany’s and You’ve Got Mail untold numbers of times and I still love all 3 and could watch them again right now without any reduction in viewing enjoyment.  The other day I watched the new season of the Simpsons and it is still making me laugh after 22 years. Same basic gags but if they work, they work.

Other examples are in music.  I’ve had a playlist I made a year or so ago that is my go-to.  It has all of my favorite songs and I put it on recycle and listen to it again and again.  The other day I was driving with my sister and she said “Can we listen to something other than the playlist that you have on all the time”.  Sometimes I forget that not everyone enjoys repetition the way I do!

In the first area of my mission there was a sandwich shop we would frequent and every time we went I got a reuben sandwich.  Finally my companion in frustration said “try something different why don’t you!”.  So I did and you know what- it wasn’t as good as the reuben and I left the store wishing I had gotten the sure thing.

What do you think of this trait? Some might say “I’m in a rut” but I see it as being self-aware and cognizant of what makes me happy. Besides, isn’t there a point in life where you stop trying to figure out what you love and just love the things you have? But on the other side I sometimes worry that I don’t push myself and end up as a boring person, which is not what I want.

A few years ago my friend Camille did a post of things we may not know about her and despite knowing her for years and living with her for 2 as a roommate, there were several things on the list that I didn’t know.  I tried to come up with such a list and it was an epic failure.  I couldn’t think of anything about myself that my friends didn’t know.  Not one thing! I am the lamest person to play truth or dare with because I really have nothing interesting to tell! Being so predictable and open seems like a bad thing?

My friend Raelene has this bucket list of all these things she wants to do in life- the places she wants to go, experiences to have, possessions/homes she’d like to gain.  I have never been this type of dreamer.  I am content with what I’ve got and honestly feel no desire to have much more.  If it happens that’s great but I could live in my apartment, by myself, with an occasional trip to Hawaii and be perfectly content for the rest of my life.

Most girls I know hate being single and daydream of a different life.  I really don’t.  I like my life. Its a sure thing and in some ways getting married would be super scary (although if the experience happens that would be great but adapting to a whole new life would be hard). If it happens that’s great but if it doesn’t I’m fine too.

Thoughts? Do you think consistency is good or bad thing? Should I feel compelled to ‘break out of my shell’ or am I fine just the way I am? What do you think about your life and being ‘in a rut’?

Nothing Unexpected

A few weeks ago my friend Camille did a blog posting entitled Ten Things You Might Not Know About Me.  I have thought about this entertaining post for a while and wondered what my ten items would be.  To be honest, I can hardly think of anything that would surprise my friends.  I guess I am a pretty out-in-the-open person.  Most of my friends know what I like to do, my weird quirks, and my other interests and likes.  I don’t know if that is a good or bad thing?  Maybe I am the kind of person that is reliably simple.  I have never been a big dreamer.  A friend of mine has this bucket list of things she wants to do in life such as visit every state and read the “1000 Must Read Before You Die” books.

I never did.  The only thing I have passionately wanted to do since I was a little girl was graduate from BYU- and I did that nearly 8 years ago.   Yes, I’ve wanted to to get married, have a family and contribute to society for most of my life; however, I was never specific about what type of family, home or career I want.  I knew that I wanted to be dynamic and interesting- make a difference in the world.   For the most part I think I have done that but even today I do not have specific things that I dream about doing or secret surprises about my life.  I don’t know why, I just don’t?  Does that make sense?

The fact that I can’t come up with a bucket list or even a list of surprising things makes me wonder if I am the dynamic, interesting person I wanted to be.  On the other hand, if the world knows your interesting then  does that make you any less interesting?I don’t think so.  I like my life.  For the most part, I am happy and content.

In the end, I can only live my life in the best way I know how. Whether it surprises others is out of my control.

So, here are a few things that are interesting about me.  If a few surprise you all the better.

1. I enjoy jazz music.  I just recently downloaded a singer called Jimmy Scott, and he is amazing.  My new favorite.  Here is one of his songs.  What a voice! He had a genetic abnormality that made his voice never mature.  I think it is beautiful.

01 Anchored By My Side

05 An Evening In Paradise

2. I hate tomato juice.  V8.  Yuck!

3. I am a cheese snob.I hate Velveeta, cheese singles wrapped in plastic, nacho cheese…you get the idea.

4.  My favorite flowers are lilies and orchids. (flowers welcome anytime!) I love pink and purple.

5. I am foodie and have recently become a huge fan of Julia Child. (More to come on that later).

6. I’ve had 3 surgeries in my life.

7. I went to the principal’s office twice growing up, both times were in middle school. Both times over silly things.

8. I occasionally like to watch a cheesy romantic movie on lifetime or hallmark channel- especially with a good friend like Camille.

9. There are more times than I would care to admit that I have almost purchased stuff from an infomercial.  Somehow I always stop myself.

10. I am the one person in my family that is not a good photographer.  I can’t seem to keep the camera steady enough.

11. I think most handicrafts are really dull- sewing, knitting, quilting, even scrapbooking…not for me.

12. I enjoy wrapping presents.  I used to hate it but now it is one of my favorite parts of buying a present.

13. I wish I had a pen pal that I could write juicy, rich, letters to. Sadly I must be happy with my blog.

14. I love kitchen appliances and already have a food processor, kitchenaid mixer, stick mixer, toaster, rice cooker, electric fondue pot, electric tea pot, and crockpot.

15.  I dream of having a nice kitchen with beautiful french pots and knives that really do slice a tomato a centimeter thin with ease.

16.  I want to go to England some day and take the Jane Austen book tour, see all the sights from the movies and her life (and Elizabeth Gaskell while I am at it).  Then I want to take the chunnel and go to Paris for another week visiting the art, cafes, bridges and markets.

17. I hold onto grudges way longer than I should.  For instance, when I think back to my high school choir teacher I still feel a little upset. Silly I know, but she was evil.

18.  I wish I could have nice furniture, clothes, purses and shoes. In reality, I probably couldn’t justify the expenses even if I had the money but a girl can fantasize.

19. If I had money I would install a year round infinity pool in my house.

20. I have a Dwight bobblehead that smiles at me while I work.  My friends gave it to me with love and excitement.  In an odd way it reminds me that I am loved and to laugh at life.

Please make some comments.  Let me know how surprising your life is…