Its no great secret that my church is a church of marriage and family. After all, we have an entire proclamation on the family and have fought tooth and nail for traditional marriage to be protected and encouraged. All that is good and wonderful but where does that lead the rapidly growing group of single adult members of the church without families? Well, you can either hack it out alone ignoring much of the doctrine that doesn’t relate to your life or you can
(or some mix of both to survive).
The second option is hard. Its hard to find people to go on dates with. That is my constant problem. And yes, I’ve tried multiple online resources and nothing. I’ve asked my friends to help me but evidently they don’t know many singles which I get. Hmmm. Who else? Don’t go to singles ward any more so could meet someone at the gym or at swim stuff or something like that but its hard. I signed up for a matchmaking service but it is based on the men and they haven’t matched me yet. They make a big deal about being ‘active’ which is a nice way of saying skinny because nobody thinks of someone like me as ‘active’. even though I am.
So where does that lead me? Ok. Back to option 1. Hack out a good enough existence for yourself and ignore the second part. Make the church work for your life because you know it is true and Joseph Smith was a prophet and you don’t care that a large part of doctrine you can’t practice yet. Ok maybe you care a little but everyone wants companionship some of the time. You don’t have to be a robot because you are single. So you do your best to take what you can and develop a strong relationship with God and hope that someone sets you up with a friend or you bump into Mr. Sunshine.
Part of the problem with set-ups is my friends say things like ‘I don’t see you two together’. I wish they would let me be the judge of that. I had another friend say ‘you wouldn’t want to go on a date with just anyone’. Unless he’s a rapist and murder I probably would let them buy me dinner. The standard doesn’t have to be so high. I can learn something from a date even if it isn’t ‘the one’. Plus, how do I know ‘the one’ if I haven’t met ‘not the one’.
I wish I could have a bunch of dates and get a flavor for what I want. I really have no idea.
The problem is when you do finally get a date your expectations tend to be a little out of whack because you haven’t had one in 6 months. You either think this person might be the one, really likes me or, has big potential, instead of just a casual date. Usually that’s a nightmare.
Even if it is a nightmare date you have so few that I’ve found myself hoping the rotten date would call me again after it. I don’t know why but it feels better to go on another rotten date than nothing. Silly but true.
I’m embarrassed to admit the last date I went on was last October and that was only after rather incessant begging to my friends because I didn’t want to go to a reunion alone. We had a great time. I enjoyed it immensely.
What made me think of this is I have season tickets to the Scera Shell and they are having Josh Turner coming next Tuesday. It crossed my mind- this would make a great date activity but could I for the best of me think of a guy to ask? Not so much.
Its a problem. Where have all the good men gone? Where are you hiding? I’m a nice girl!
Here’s some things about me to recommend me to your single friends out there:
I’m in my early 30s and look like this
I’m a great athlete and love beautiful lakes, rivers and oceans. Swam 5 open water swims with 2 more to come this year.
I also can kick most anybody’s butt. I’m tough as nails. MMA is my specialty.
Looking for a great cook? I’m that too.
I’m also a great friend and aunt. Loyalty, honesty and friendship are everything to me. Always have been.
Lastly my faith is everything. Without it I would just be an anxiety ridden, unhappy mess. I would sooner give up breathing than give up my faith.
So there you go. That’s my online resume for any guys out there to read. I think I’m pretty great. Not perfect but got a lot going for me. I’m fun and try really hard to be a good friend. I work hard, am honest and I know what my many flaws are and am working to do better.
So if you know someone who is single show him this page and then let him decided for himself if he wants to be set up with me. That should make your life easier. Who knows right!
Anyway, That’s me and that’s the state of dating at my age. Its darn to impossible. So in the meantime I am hacking it out on my own. Hoping for a bad date if I’m lucky. Sigh…