Something has been on my mind that maybe all of you, internet world, can have some insight into. Maybe you can relate?
Do any of you have friends who seem to be able to handle just about anything that is thrown at them? What I mean is I have friends and family in my life that never get unglued, never feel panic or anxiety, and we are talking after dealing with some serious trials and yet they bounce back so well. Do you have people in your life who keep a constant calm while the world is swirling around them?
I envy those people. As much as I try I just can’t do it. In fact, I have to consciously allow myself to express anxiety and feelings of being overwhelmed or the problem only gets worse. The whole reason I had my first panic attack was because I balled everything up inside of me for 3 years until it exploded. I learned the hard way that keeping it all in my head only made things a million times worse for me.
This week I am feeling haggard and worn out. Trying to manage 3 jobs, moving, waiting for the house and the loan, managing my tenants, finding tenants for one of my Dad’s properties who wants to be in by Saturday which necessitated the moving of my tenants (sigh…) and going to a new ward. All of that in one week!
And yet I think of my friends with special needs kids or a myriad of other challenges and my problems seem so small; yet that doesn’t stop my brain from feeling like it is going to explode. My heart starts to race. My head aches.
I guess when it comes down to it I wish I could be more of an absorber. It makes me feel weak that life wallops me so often. I honestly try to be stronger but again that can make it all worse. I see little improvements in how I handle anxiety and I ALWAYS finish what I start but the journey can be rough.
Sometimes I feel like I’ve turned into kind of a lousy adult because I come unglued so easily. Things seem to make me nervous or anxious that other people don’t even care about.
For example, I was talking with a friend about my frustrations over being alone for Christmas and she mentioned all of the great things she did when she was alone at Christmas and it made me feel more frustrated. It just feels sometimes like others have it all figured out and I am playing catch up. Do you ever feel that way?
I think the challenge is finding that balance between improving myself and self-acceptance. I want to do better and I certainly don’t want to feel anxiety but then I also want to acknowledge what I am feeling and deal with it in a constructive way.
I don’t know if any of this makes any sense so please tell me if you see any of this in your life?
How can I do better? How can I be more of an ABSORBER? What do you do to manage anxiety in your life in a productive way?
On a related note, one of my frustrations is that it is difficult to adequately describe how I feel. Stress definitely doesn’t encapsulate it and anxiety is really too clinical for most people. Pressure or feeling overwhelmed is the best I can do. I think this image says a lot more than my words ever could.