Today I was on the radio! There is a local call- in talk show (not a hard core Republican show but more about local matters) called the Doug Wright Show on KSL. I’ve always been impressed with Doug’s hosting abilities and combined with Doug Fabrizio on Radio West on KUER (local NPR station) I think Utah has 2 of the best radio hosts in the country (both oddly named Doug!).
Anyway, today they were talking about ‘school/teacher shopping’. This is the phenomenon in education where parents ensure their children have the best teachers/schools and may even try different teachers out to see if they are a good fit for their child.
Here is my call in. I am at 25:10.(A little under half way through)
It may seem strange for a single girl like myself to have passionate feelings about this topic but it all goes back to my upbringing. When I was in the 4th and 5th grade I began to be bullied fairly roughly (is there a nice way to be bullied?). During those years seemingly out of nowhere I gained a lot of weight. This led to kids shoving me into water fountains, calling me ‘dog’ and asking me ‘what kind of dog food my mom fed me?’ etc (you get the idea).
Seeing the problem, my parents took action and met with the teachers. Unfortunately these particular teachers were very inattentive and passed off our concerns with a ‘boys will be boys, kids will be kids’ type of attitude. They actually told my parents ‘there is nothing we can do’. Thankfully my parents pulled me out of public school and sent me to Reid School in Salt Lake City, UT.
I am so grateful to my parents for making this choice. I know it was a sacrifice of time and money but it really did change my life. At Reid School I felt loved and accepted. Plus, they taught me to master topics both in the short-term and long-term. What matters at Reid School is mastery and improvement, not in a particular grade or score. Each child is individually monitored and then learning is tailored to challenge and encourage their individual learning style and personality.
Even though I was only at Reid School for one semester it had a dramatic impact on me. First of all, it taught me that my parents really were watching out for me. This was during a time when my parents had a lot on their plate- my mom had just had a baby with bedrest, my Dad was working overseas in Japan a great deal, and they both had demanding callings in the ward. To know that my parents were watching and cared enough to remove me from a bad situation meant a lot to me then and now.
Secondly, it taught me to never look at a situation as a closed book. To fight for your own happiness- a lesson I have had to continually relearn throughout my life. My father is particularly good at this type of thought. There are always new and interesting options with my Dad. We do not need to accept the first helping that life puts out for us. Most of the time we can ask for more, we can fight for more. This is especially important when it comes to our kids.
I know there are some who say ‘if you pull out your kid from a bad school/class than the school will never get better’. Well, my response to them is- that’s just too bad. If there ever was a time for me to be selfish it is with the raising of my children (if I ever have them). If I have kids their happiness will be my top priority and I will not offer my children up on a sacrificial alter of a failing school/teacher. I will do what’s best for them period.
Does this mean I will never put my children in public school? No. It means I will do exactly what this program talks about- teacher/school shop. I will consider ALL of my options and find the solution that is best for my child. If that is a great public school teacher than so be it.
I highly recommend watching the documentary Waiting for Superman.